tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post4525898478645866988..comments2023-05-09T03:27:15.020-07:00Comments on 1-Urth Mama: Ego v. HeartErikahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03863461381473308483noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-12194558659989771982012-03-21T21:29:42.605-07:002012-03-21T21:29:42.605-07:00I have 4 baskets of folded laundry upstairs and th...I have 4 baskets of folded laundry upstairs and thought I should tag you in a picture of them to prove you're not alone ;)! Of course, then I remembered that kind of thing is just for Facebook... but I was definitely thinking of you!Brookeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16103023345997899727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-68038719538112883622012-03-20T10:31:57.190-07:002012-03-20T10:31:57.190-07:00I sympathise.
I think as mothers we always have th...I sympathise.<br />I think as mothers we always have this dilemma (well, except the super-rich maybe!!)<br />I went part-time when mine were little, cos I didn't want anyone else collecting them from school. I did that for 10 years, which means I will be working longer at this end (now back full-time!) to get a decent pension, but I don't care...that time was so precious and I will never have it back again. Some days it was difficult, and I felt caught between 2 worlds, rarely got a lunch break (that was travel time!) but honestly if I had to do it again, I wouldn't change a thing. <br />You've written very honestly and I thank you for that. hope you're happy whatever you decide.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08100985140335023467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-2810466557766893992012-03-15T16:30:28.004-07:002012-03-15T16:30:28.004-07:00I think the hardest thing about working full-time ...I think the hardest thing about working full-time when I started a few years back, was the cyclicle aspect of EVERYTHING. Those priceless laughs, random outings, picnics, etc. are obliterated by the routine of school/work/childcare. And in Winter, when the days are shorter, it broke my heart to drop the kids off when it was dark and pick them up again when it was dark. Something about that made me always feel like my day with them was non-existant. When my husband got a raise a year later that compensated for my income, I decided to be back at home and have never looked back. <br />I will say that I'm glad I "got it out of my system" and realized where my heart truly lay and made me appreciate everything so much more. As I had been wistful to contribute financially and get additional adult interaction, my return was honestly more of a forced one due to financial reasons more than anything. Thanks for sharing such an honest post and my apologies for inundating you with my thoughts :).Brookeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16103023345997899727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-29831350352737284752012-03-15T08:48:17.444-07:002012-03-15T08:48:17.444-07:00Oh hun...I don't know why, but I'm getting...Oh hun...I don't know why, but I'm getting a little teary-eyed at this post. Being a mom is so hard, the decisions we have to make.<br />I can't tell you what to do, the answer can only be found in your heart. But I can tell you, as a mom who works outside the home full-time, that I struggle with the same feelings. Some days I love my work, it enables me to play another role besides "mom". Other days, I wonder "Why the hell am I doing this? I'm missing so much of Sherbert's life!" There are days I don't even see him awake. Monday-Friday, I only get a few precious hours with him...and I try so very hard to make it "quality" time that I end up neglecting all the other stuff, and end up with hours of chores to do after he goes to bed.<br />Long story short, I think we all want what we don't have. You want my business lunches and high-powered meetings, and I want your yoga pants and spit-up on t-shirt! LOL.<br />Oh...and the fancy house? I have one of those (well, a Midwest version of one, at least)...and I'm barely ever there! Sometimes it doesn't seem worth it. Its family and love that make a home.<br />Much love coming your way - you'll get it all figured out. xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-52488118391069957642012-03-15T02:46:54.496-07:002012-03-15T02:46:54.496-07:00This post is really close to my heart as I always ...This post is really close to my heart as I always question my decision to work. What you do for your kids, your experiences with them, and what they are going to both learn and remember from their childhoods is worth more than any big house, or fancy outfit. I absolutely hated working while Greg was traveling each week. Have you ever looked at the value of taking on more work, but putting in 1/22 day and getting a sitter? You could either do work from home (although it's virtually impossible to get any work done with kids around) or go to a local coffee shop/hot spot for a few hours of the day. The kids get to learn to feel comfortable around someone else, you get to see the other side and you get to get a taste of the other side and see what works for your family. It certainly doesn't help the laundry pile (does anything? we have that too, and I'm the worst with it) and who is to say you will use extra income for buying fancy stuff (because I don't...). I can see you turning it into something for the kids, or putting it into college funds for the kids... <br /><br />Whatever you decide down the road will be the right thing for you guys (no one else), and I look forward to reading about it.FourJedishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08333954597240609227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-34581058877652334862012-03-14T19:33:56.286-07:002012-03-14T19:33:56.286-07:00Ah ... the work v. non-work post. As someone who ...Ah ... the work v. non-work post. As someone who can relate SO much (law school grad) I know how hard this decision is. Can you maybe find something that's part time? I don't work part time, but I do work 40 hours and am out of work by 4 pm every day. This means I still get quite a few hours with the little one. Let me tell you, it still gets EXTREMELY stressful because there aren't enough hours in the day ... to get a work out, go grocery shopping, clean the house, do laundry etc. And when I do get all those errands done, I don't spend time with my children at all. It's a tough balance. But for me it works. Maybe, just try putting your name out there and SEE if you even get an offer. If you do, maybe try it out and see what happens! You'll soon realize if it's the right choice or not. I rambled. Sorry.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12575822907004951235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-320710263364843875.post-90579579804775544902012-03-14T19:32:22.218-07:002012-03-14T19:32:22.218-07:00I definitely think staying home is so worth it ove...I definitely think staying home is so worth it over the fancy house. Maybe you're overwhelmed having to take care of everything while Mr. M was gone. Of course in a time like that you would feel like you can't get everything done...who could?! Thankfully a basket of unfolded laundry and kids without baths for a day or two is not a big deal in the scheme of things. You are doing a perfect job at staying home and taking care of your three kiddos! It might not be "perfect" but what is? I think it's great that you have clients here and there, that leaves you open to opportunities to expand when the girls are older. I'm not saying it's bad for you to go back to work, but don't make that decision based on you thinking you aren't doing a good job because you are and I don't see those girls being any happier than they are with their mama. And the job can always come later. No hurry:) Good luck working through those feelings!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04046632913549407193noreply@blogger.com